has anyone seen my sharp rock? i left it in the river for 100 years for safe keeping and now i can’t find it. its many uneven edges have sentimental significance
hate how so much of adult friendship relies on updates, experiencing your life through pictures and tidbits. we had it good with childhood friends, could spend years and years basking in the same circumstance. now i just float through clouds of strangers, hungry for something solid and warm. yes i carry your heart within mine, yes i see the world through your eyes. but in that very moment i still feel alone, still know it’s poor substitute for same room, twin smiles.
i ended up liking how gendered french is solely because i can say that i want people to use he/him pronouns for me the same way they use it for angels, blood and blunts
i asked a trans friend to give me her fem version of this and she said that people should use she/her with her the same way they use it for the sea, flesh and stuffed toys
I don’t speak French but I speak Spanish and I’m nonbinary so the whole gendered language thing is… difficult. I couldn’t get this post out of my head and so I wrote a poem. It’s a first draft but i just had to get it out there
It’s called “Masculino como el amor, femenino como la espada”
Si tienes que usar el masculino conmigo, usa el masculino cómo lo usas para el azúcar para el lobo el amor y el mar. Pero si tienes que usar el femenino, úsalo cómo lo usas para la tierra para la anaconda la guerra y la mar. Llámame masculino cómo el día cómo el melocotón el pecho y la cometa. O, llámame femenino cómo la noche cómo la piedra la leche y la mano. Masculino cómo el viento, femenino cómo la tormenta. El hueso, la sangre. El mito, la magia. El sol, la luna. Si tienes que usar el masculino conmigo, o si tienes que usar el femenino, llámame femenino con la boca y la lengua o llámame masculino con los dientes y los pulmones. O si puedes llámame por mi nombre. Llámame yo.
Translation: Masculine like love, feminine like the sword
If you have to use the masculine for me, use the masculine like you use it for sugar for the wolf love and the sea. But if you have to use the feminine, use it like you use it for earth for the anaconda war and the sea. Call me masculine like the day like the peach the chest and the comet. Or, call me feminine like the night like the stone the milk and the hand. Masculine like the wind, feminine like the storm. The bone, the blood. The myth, the magic. The sun, the moon. If you have to use the masculine for me, or if you have to use the feminine, call me feminine with your mouth and your tongue or call me masculine with your teeth and your lungs. Or if you can call me by my name. Call me myself.
no one speak to me this poem cut me open
alsdkfjalsdkj thaaaaanks! I made a few typos but i’m fairly proud of it hehe
I gotta say, one of the greatest achievements of my 20s was that I learned (mostly) to differentiate between:
“I truly do not want to go” and
“I’m just feeling the Demand Avoidance, and I will like it once I get there.”
Well, goodness, this one resonated much more than I was expecting. I mean, I get it. My mind was also blown wide open when I found out “demand avoidance” was a thing that existed, and that I’m not the only weirdo in the world who suddenly wishes it wasn’t her birthday after anxiously waiting for her birthday for days.
Loads of people in the tags are asking how I do it? I feel this won’t be groundbreaking advice, but here is what I have learned:
Previous experience. Really no way around it. Now that I hit thirty, I feel like I have done enough things to know, intellectually, from experience, what will feel nice if I overcome the avoidance, and what won’t. For example, every time I go to the beach, I wake up early and would rather eat a tire than get off the bed. But I remember that every time I got up and went to the beach, I was glad I did it. So I just get up, feeling like shit, and get ready, feeling like shit, and I get to the beach and magic!! I feel great, I love the beach!! Sometimes you just gotta do it scared feeling kinda like shit.
Am I avoiding the thing or getting to the thing? I have a lot of demand avoidance around just, y'know, getting up, getting ready and going out the door. Universal human experience. If I notice that doing the actual thing (Swim in the pool!) sounds nice, but I’m avoiding having to rally myself to go do that (Fetch swimsuit! Sunscreen! Towel!), then I know it’s demand avoidance and I should just fucking go.
Is the thing making me feel excited at all or just anxious? I have had previous occasions when I did the opposite; I convinced myself it was just demand avoidance when I really just. Hated the thing. And wanted to stop. If you feel a mix of excitement and dread, or excitement and anxiety, that might be demand avoidance. But if thinking of doing the thing just makes you feel actively anxious, then yeah. You don’t want to do the thing.
Do the thing a little bit. Used often with dishes. I’ve seen this advice float around Tumblr a lot and it’s correct. Commit to doing just a bit of the thing; a little bit of the thing; the smallest bit of the thing you can do. Getting started will make it clear right away if you don’t want to do it (and in that case, you have permission to stop), or if you just having trouble getting started.
Everyone always talks about flying cars this and flying cars that.
When the only futuristic gadget I want that doesn’t exist yet when it SHOULD are those cup noodles from Cowboy bebop where you just pull the tag at the bottom of it and the noodles are instantly warmed.
where is the future I was promised?
i want this to be real so i can remove the chemical heating elements from a pack of cup noodles and use them to make pipe bombs
that’s why they’re not gonna make these in real life
great news, op
The silent, anonymous YouTube travel diarist SoloSoloTravel demonstrates a fancy, gourmet self-heating ready meal like in the OP, while riding a luxury train in Japan. and when i see this post i keep checking to see if anyone has worked out what the meal is yet. It’s real and it looked nice - the obvious criticism being that it isn’t very circular economy.!
(A series of photos showing someone heating up a beef tongue bento box with a self-heating element activated by pulling a cable. The box cost 1100 yen / $9.50 and doesn’t look too bad.)
Hey I’m not a scientist, I’m not a doctor, but I AM a sixteen year old who has struggled with insomnia from a very early age because of ADHD, medicine side effects, depression, the like. If you’re genuinely wondering about this, there are multiple things that go into it but the one that helped me the most was: I was spending too much time in my room/on my bed not sleeping.
When you’re in your room for 12 out of 24 hours of the day and only 7 of those hours are spent sleeping, your brain can get confused. It stops thinking of your bed as “a place to sleep”, and stops consistently making you tired when you go to bed because it thinks the bed is a neutral place instead of a place you go to specifically for sleeping. My best advice based on personal experience:
1- start doing things like reading or being on your phone in a different room, or even just in a chair next to your bed instead of ON your bed.
2- exercising before bed will not “tire you out” in any sort of helpful way if you have insomnia. You’ll either be kept awake by adrenaline and dopamine or you’ll pass out and wake up even more exhausted and sore the next day.
3- routines go a long way. It can even be something fun, like making a cup of a warm drink. Though make sure it’s not caffeinated (unless you’re like me and caffeine doesn’t do anything to you because of your weird ass brain). It can also be something productive, like laundry or dishes, though again, exercise is not the move. You want to be winding down, not forcing your body into unconsciousness, because that never really works long term.
4- laying in bed for longer than 20 minutes trying to sleep will only make everything worse. Try not to watch the clock, but if you know it’s been a while since you started trying to sleep and you’re still awake, get up and go do a neutral/passive activity in dim or low/warm lighting in ANOTHER ROOM— preferably not something that involves your phone or a tv.
5- accept that your sleep schedule will not always be perfect, especially if you are neurodivergent or have struggled with insomnia for a long time. You will have days where your mind just won’t settle down, and maybe they’ll be few and far between, but they’ll be there. But if you know what works best for you, it will always be easier than it was last time to pick yourself back up again.
This was all based heavily on personal experience, so if anything I said is wrong or misleading, feel free to let me know. But these tips are what got me sleeping regularly again every time my sleep cycle got fucked up.
And hey, if you’re ever struggling, just remember, it’s not your fault that capitalism prioritizes productivity over healthy sleep schedules!
remember how profanity was made out to be the worst thing in the world when you were a kid and then when you grew up everyone was like “just kidding, nobody actually cares, we were just doing that so we could yell at you”
Sometimes I come across Real Actual Adults who get upset over swearing and every time they’re like the most sheltered bizarre extreme-christian-upbringing, and for them it’s also just a weird judging thing. Like where in the bible does it say “don’t say fuck”, point it out to me you little trad shit
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